<h1 style="text-align: center;">My Mom Is Now Concerned I Don’t Have A Girlfriend</h1>
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<p>Well, maybe “concerned” isn’t the right word. My mom isn’t concerned about the <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/04/27/stop-beating-yourself-up-because-youre-single/">issue of me being single</a>, but the other day her and I were having a heart-to-heart about life, mine specifically.</p>
<p>I was telling her how I was handling everything concerning my career, my finances, and my health. There were some areas of my life I felt good about; others, not so much. Her response was typically encouraging of a mother, but she caught me off guard when she said, “I do think you would feel better about some things if you had a significant other in your life.”</p>
<h2>A Mother’s Rare Concern</h2>
<p>My mother has never ever said such a thing to me.</p>
<p>From the time when I was a kid coming home from kindergarten talking about some girl I like, my mom has always known I like girls. A lot. She’s never really had a hands on approach in my relationships unless I’ve asked her for advice, which never really was until my ex-girlfriend moved in with me. Other than those times, <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Isle-Of-Man-dating-service.html?gender=female">when it comes to me and women</a>, my mom has always let her son make her own mistakes, knowing good and well I’ll make them early and often, but my heart is good and I will learn from them.</p>
<h2>Lessons in Love and Independence</h2>
<p>Since I’ve always been attracted to the opposite sex my mother has also never had to push on me <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Vietnam-dating-service.html?gender=female&page=5">finding a girlfriend</a> or finding a girl I like. She knows no matter how busy life gets, I’ll always make time for the company of a woman. As a matter of fact, after my ex and I broke up, my mom was the first person to tell me to take a break from relationships. She said I had my fill and I could use some time to myself, enjoying the life of a single person.</p>
<h2>Reconsidering the Single Life</h2>
<p>I took her advice but now I’m thinking — and with the <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/07/27/mobile-phone-etiquette-while-dating/">phone conversation we had</a>, she’s proving it to be true — I’ve taken her advice too literally. Or is it for too long I have taken her advice?</p>
<p>I don’t know if my mom’s question means my bachelor ways have gotten out of control. As a matter of fact, I don’t think they have. I think my bachelor life is pretty typical of all bachelors, whether they live in a big city or a small one. People may think it’s somewhat of a tall tale, but trust me, it’s really no different than many men we know. If we add up all the years I’ve been single — two, going on three — it still won’t compare to all the years I spent going from one girlfriend to the next.</p>
<h2>Balancing Singlehood and Relationship Readiness</h2>
<p>My mom knows that. She knows how much I’ve enjoyed this single life I live and how rewarding it’s been to my growth as a human being, but I also think maybe she sees something I’m missing that I don’t and though I don’t know if she’s right or not, I can’t say she doesn’t have a point.</p>
<p>I have been single for a couple of years now, and I would be lying if I said it has never concerned me or I haven’t thought about it. Of course I think about it, especially as I approach 30, because as I’ve said before, when I was 10 years younger, I could have sworn by now I would be married.</p>
<p>When I met my ex I thought I was on that track, only to mess it up, which makes me think, “Was I on the track and did I derail myself?” So yeah, those thoughts are prevalent. But never ever have I been <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Bahamas-dating-service.html?gender=female&page=5">so concerned with finding a girlfriend</a> to the point where I put it on a list of priorities. Nor do I put staying single on that list of priorities. I don’t ever want to be proactive about either. My mother doesn’t want me to be either, at least I don’t think that’s what she was saying to me the other day when she said maybe a girlfriend would do me some good.</p>
<p>It was just a suggestion by her, but I must admit, I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.</p>
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